I am speaking of 'arriving' as in truly coming more and more 'in tune' or 'at one' or whatever you want to call it, with Asian culture. We have been here almost ten years and I thought I would comment a bit on things I never thought I would do or see or say....
- Let's start with last night. David, Gabrielle, Tobin, and I went out for dinner while our other girls ate at a neighbor's house. We went for sushi and ordered Tobin fried rice. He ate 6 sushi and wanted more. Then, because Bella did not like what our neighbor served, she was hungry. She said: 'sushi, yes!!!' And then Tobin had to eat a few more too. Our kids eat variety and really well, they will try new stuff, and we are SO thankful for this, still, I didn't think I would see them eating Sushi as their night time snack.
- Eat fermented foods. Just the past few months I have finally started adding the fermented or 'sour veg' to my noodles and other dishes. This is a local thing that David has always loved, but I always said 'yuck' to, not anymore, it is yum and adds great flavor.
- Eating local fish. Here is another thing I was always hesitant to do, until our helper started fixing it, and we all LOVE it.Now we eat it anywhere.
- Cooking with fresh ginger and garlic. I have said this before, but I cannot imagine cooking with anything but...
- Saying 'bu you'. This is local for 'I don't have', and I would always grimace when people said it because it is not grammatically correct for Mandarin, it is slang. The other day I repeated it back to somebody and quickly had to change it.
- Drinking hot water. Yep, I do, just plain water, and green tea, of course. But I drink hot water at home too, never did that pre-Asia.
- Ask for discounts at any and every store. The bargain culture has gotten to me.
- Ask workers to eat with us, or anyone for that matter. The hospitality of this culture has gotten to me in a good way. I often offer the water delivery guy pizza or anything western I may be making. He has taken me up on it before.
- Drive in the wrong lane, do a U-turn the middle of the road, and all other manner of driving maneuvers I would NEVER attempt in the U.S. (hear me out though, it is for survival, really)
- Drive kids on the electric bike, drive three kids on the electric bike.
- Drink coffee black. This has nothing to do with culture, but David and I both drink our coffee black now and I love it. In general, we eat less sugar. We also enjoy the french press, though we don't always use it. It certainly makes the coffee more flavorful. (I actually am not drinking any coffee at the moment because I am nursing, and every time I prepare David's for the morning, my mouth waters)
- Love soups. I was never a soup lover, but I really enjoy almost any soup served at restaurants here.
- Spit bones on the floor of a restaurant. Not in every restaurant but we know the places where this is what we should do (and drop any trash on the floor too),and there are many like this. They just come around and sweep up as soon as the customers are done.
- Tell people they are looking 'fatter' or 'skinnier'. This would be locals, of course. I know the cultural nuisances enough to know I would not tell any American friend who just had a baby that she was looking fat (yes, locals said this to me). I have commented in this way to other locals as well and it is not offensive.
- Ask local friends how much their stuff costs. We get this all the time, and we ask right back.
- Home school our kids. In the U.S. I just never had the chance to think about this, I was no where near that stage of life. Now I love it, though I am constantly overwhelmed by the responsibility.