Sunday, November 23, 2014

The week in a few detailed moments...

Last weekend we were supposed to go on a short out of town trip, a minority wedding, and then a dinner at a new guest house that just opened. Because of sickness, the only thing anyone participated in was the dinner. 

Sunday night I took the girls (including G) to a nice western meal at a nice new western guest house opened by our nice friends from Holland. It was pretty awesome (the atmosphere, food, people), but David and Tobin were home and that made it not so awesome. I was tired and not very engaging, not to mention chasing G around on the tile floor almost had me miss the dessert.

On Monday David was called for the third time to go to the minority wedding (they last 3 days) that our family had missed due to illness. David was still recovering but he really had to go. That particular family makes the best food, I wondered if he would eat it having just been through a gut-wrenching illness (literally). He did, he said he couldn't stop it was so good. The rest of us stayed home and ate homemade pizza.

We somehow did normal home school that day. 
David warned me previously that this was the week: visa renewal and the house rewire, don't plan on getting much done. 
Alrighty, low expectations, I got it.

On Tuesday Sophia started a dance class that would take place right after her third class in the morning. When I picked her up and watched, I knew it was perfect for her, she loved it.

For dinner we had already planned on going to another minority wedding in a different village. This was our new helper's cousin getting married, so it was a new place. It was great to meet some of her family, though we were a spectacle (always). The kids did great!
 With a toy truck involved, the kids were fine. They were also entertained by the teenage boys pouring rice liquor on the floor and igniting it. Yes, they drink that stuff.
David refused the boos and cigarettes and chatted away.

On Wednesday, it was high time I used the avocados a friend had brought from the border. Guacamole, its whats for dinner! Seriously, Gabrielle and I had it as our main course. It was delicious. 

The morning was spent with David and me getting  chest x-rays (no TB) for our visa and then blood work done (no HIV). I made it to the health inspection place (where I almost passed out two years ago) and said: "I have come back!" because they all know me. David wasn't there yet, but I was in a hurry to finish by the time I needed to pick up Sophia, so I filled out paperwork and assured them I wouldn't pass out. Sophia called in the middle of it all to tell me that the school principle said: 'no more dance class!' It is canceled, I needed to come get her right away (never shocked by the quick turn of events in this country when it comes to schools and scheduling). David arrived, the needle was in my arm and he stood by my side, like a good husband. But I was fine, and then rushed to go pick up Soph.

On Thursday the re-wire began. This will get its own post, but our whole house got re-wired. David went out to continue the visa renewal process and the kids were all in school in both the morning and afternoon because it was dangerous at our place! Gabrielle stayed home of course and watched it all unfold. It was a rocky start to the day. I did not do well with my patience, but grace won out in the end, it always does, and always includes apologies by me.

I brought David a 'Sea Salt Coffee' from our favorite bakery, this was new and I had been wanting to try it, he already had and said it was worth the $1.50. I had on my running clothes since I was not homeschooling, but it didn't happen (low expectations remember?).

David had the visa folks working on all 6 visas and we needed to HURRY over there for them to finish part of the process before their lunch break. I picked up the kids, bought them a doughnut from the same bakery and off we flew to the visa office, where they each in turn got their picture taken. 

No electricity, we did some core subjects and back to school they went that afternoon.

By Friday   They had found an electrical problem, and continued working. The kids went to school in the morning, and since we had no power I ordered food for lunch to pick up. Then we needed to help our friends in a bind and pick up their kid from school. I told David I could try to get 4 kids on the moto but..no, better not. He was at the office so he just came by the restaurant and took Bella and Tobin back home. 
This was their first time doing this, they loved it.

I love Fridays, the workers were winding down, we don't have to rush the next morning. Relax a bit.

We were figuring out what to eat when a sobbing Sophia came to the back door. One look at her mouth and I knew we were hospital-bound. She and her friends were playing with capes on, her hands were in it as she went up a cement stair case and she tripped. Her chin broke her fall. The inside of her mouth was a mangled mess. This also will make a post of its own. After the hospital visit, she finally went to sleep and we spent the evening consulting with our American dentist, and another dentist via Skype, all trying to figure out just how bad it really was. I had been in the middle of making cinnamon-sugar-cream cheese roll ups for our special breakfast and I had to finish. This took an hour and a half, longer than I anticipated. It was actually cathartic for me as I listened to David's conference call and then Skype call. It was probably the best thing I could have been doing, knowing my tendency to worry about tomorrow. Today certainly had had enough trouble of its own.

In the wee hours of Saturday morning we checked on Sophia and her (still bleeding) wound. Bella woke with a bellyache at 4:30 a.m. but was fine (in the morning she said: 'God healed me'), and Gabrielle started crying at 6 a.m. We enjoyed our special breakfast, even Sophia eating bit by tiny bit. We focused on how to avoid a private dental clinic (highest rate of AIDS in China, even locals say to avoid these) to get the x-rays we needed.

We let the kids watch 'The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe' fast-forwarding through some scary parts, they all enjoyed it. In the afternoon we got the needed x-rays. 

Another skype session with the dentist that night solidified the 'wait and see' approach. 

Sunday again. Christmas decorating. We will travel for Thanksgiving and then have a guest come and David spend the following week at the office for long hours, so this was the day. It almost went awry with attitudes and insufficient lights, but we regrouped and did what we could, except the tree and lights, which is what the kids enjoy the most.

And then....wait for it.....

I was almost thrown to the ground by a shock from our water machine. Worst electrical shock I have ever felt. 

I thought we just re-wired our house? 

What will the next week bring? 

Oh yeah, it is Thanksgiving. 
At the very least we will be thanks-giving.... we may be bruised, bumped, bleeding, have no power, have to maneuver the local hospital, get zero sleep....but we will give thanks, because this story, this week in its few detailed moments is a story of so much undeserved grace in every moment. And this we learn over and over.


Saturday, November 22, 2014

Wrap Dumplings

Any foreigner who has lived in Asia any length of time has certainly been invited to 'bao jiaozi' or wrap dumplings. We have done this many times in our 10 years here, it remains a fun cultural activity that all can enjoy doing and eating! This time it was our close friends/neighbors who invited.
 Bella just kept wrapping and wrapping, the other kids had long moved on. Put the raw pork concoction in the tiny round dumpling shell, wrap up, and squeeze together.

The main chef, one of my BFs here. Love her. We can talk about anything, she gets me out of binds, I get her out of binds. All our kids love her too, even Gabrielle knows her and reaches for her.

The kids ate outside. It was a great day. 

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Baby at the Table

Because G had recently up-chucked on her highchair, it was in detox. We found our booster seat and strapped her in. She looked so grown up

And she flashed her toothy grin.
 Then gave me the 'whacha talkin' 'bout' milk-face stare down.

Confessions

Our entire family has not been completely well for a full week since our return from the States.

We returned on August 25th. Almost three months ago.
Colds, coughs, stomach bugs, ear infections, back aches, and rotate them around again. 

I may be posting about school stuff, fun outings, cool milestones, kid cuteness, that is simply because life keeps happening amid the sickness,and during brief reprieves, we enjoy.

It has been tough going.

All the various illnesses have affected different people in our family in different ways.
Gabrielle had an ear infection ( I pretty much self diagnosed with an otoscope I got from a nurse friend leaving Asia), the online pics are pretty accurate. G didn't eat solid food for almost 4 days, had a high fever for five, and finally started getting better with a higher dose of antibiotics.

The throw ups came through too...
David called that the slow-bake virus (about every 5th day someone would start).

Pour in the pro-biotics (I started Kombucha tea), and rest, rest, rest in His word... which is not always as easy as it sounds (Amen?)

It is now Tuesday. Everyone has been fully well since Sunday. Thankful.
And if the midnight calls come again, thankful I will remain. Crying out for help? Yes, in thankfulness, I will petition the Throne of Grace (Phil 4).

And one more confession:
Sometimes the cold bathroom floor just feels so good. Tobin just laid there (like we all had, in turn, before him).   When I wasn't taking care of another I would go put his head in my lap and sing to him. These are sweet, tender, difficult moments.


Friends and Goodbyes

So many ex-pats we know have moved back to the U.S. over the past two years. So many reasons for their leaving, good reasons to go.  And still, when the time comes and they start selling their things, and we start reminiscing, my heart aches. 
The thought of such change, the thought of our fleeting moments...the cringe in my heart is sometimes palpable.
And yet we celebrate the friendships, we guide the going with prayer and we trust...
Trust HIM for grace in the next thing, whatever it may be. 
And quite frankly, these days, I need to learn that trust in the small, teeny transitions of daily life!

We hosted a good bye party.

 I hosted a Ladies Night 'good bye'.
And we did tell funny stories, encouraging stories, hope filled words.
These women. Love them. I laughed and cried and laughed until I cried. 
It was sweet and good. 

Goodbyes are always hard. A Gazillion times over now, they do not get easier. 
And while they remain a reality for the ex-pat, I am still learning to maneuver the emotions that come with them...

Our little toy

Gabrielle can draw a crowd.
Even with local kids that frequent our house, she is a show stopper. They may go play dress up, they may make up dances and shows, but they always come out to see what the baby is doing and play with her, and ask to hold her.

And to be honest, she has become quite our little piece of entertainment. She is mimicking so much now and her expressions are hilarious. David does this little gangster-like thing with his hands, a peace sign coming from his mouth and she copies, noise and all (okay, not quite the peace sign). She loves to pretend she is talking on the phone. Yes, all of our kiddos did this, but for some reason, since every sibling and everyone around is noticing it seems more exciting.
 With all the kiddos and friends inside one weekend David decided to have some fun with G.

"you guys line up and call for her, we will see who she comes to first, everyone has to use Chinese to be fair"
 She started moving, then stopped in her tracks and looked at me with the camera.
 And then she went straight to Bella.
During round two she went straight at the crowd and turned a sharp right towards me. 
Everyone got a big kick out of this.
(we learned this game from the Williams crew, circa 2010 Bradington, FL with Sammy the toy)

Sweet snuggles




Friday, November 14, 2014

Tobin Bike Riding

I know I have only said this about a hundred times on this blog, but this man is my hero. The one on the right. The Daddy. He has persevered through teaching the three oldest kids how to ride their bikes, and Tobin, at just three-and-a-half!

And just to be honest, I was skeptical. I wanted to give up and I wasn't even the one learning. 

David taught Bella in about 4-5 days. She was highly motivated. Tobin became highly motivated... for about a day. After that it was hard. David took off the training wheels and spent time on a few weekends really teaching him, running with him, etc. He kept telling me, 'he almost has it'. 

I took him out once and he yanked away from me and almost crashed, then stopped suddenly and I almost crashed. That was when I said: 'put them back on, he isn't mature enough', to which David said: 'one more week'. 

A week later, I was surprised. I took Tobin out by myself because everyone told me he could ride his bike. 
I came right back inside and said: 'oh my goodness, David, he can really ride. He can start, he can stop, he can turn. I can't believe it'

It took a patient daddy and altogether not too much time, and not too much pushing. He would want to quit and David would say one more time, or he would quit for that time. It certainly helped watching his sisters and other older kids around ride their bikes. Now our family can loop our block together, even with baby Gabrielle on the back!




Wednesday, November 5, 2014

On Wars and Such...

[We have been reading about the Revolutionary war for our CC cycle 3 history.]

Tobin likes to 'play war' like any good little boy...he makes guns, he pretend explodes things. He kills the bad guy. He is a superhero. And I tell him not to use his superpowers at school. I bought him winter gloves and told him they had super powers, he thought I was so serious. It was precious. He is a sweet, tender boy that always kisses his sisters good night. But he loves to rough and tumble and have victory. War style. Remember he is playing war with girls, which is interesting. Bella has to think things through. 
A week ago I heard Bella say "we are fighting the American Revolution"

Today:
B:"We are fighting the...the...umm..."
Me: "The British?"
B: yes, the British, the bad guys...We are America!
T: "bang bang, mommy here is your bb gun (hands me gun he made with connecting blocks), who else can we fight?
B: Let's fight Japan. (this country is still steeped in very anti-J sentiment)
Me: nah....someone else
B: China?
Me: No, we live in China.
T: (background noise of guns and planning)
B: 'The Indians!' (I think she means Native American Indians)
Me: No, Indians weren't bad
B: they were mean
Me: No, not always....can't fight them.
B: what country can we fight?.... I know!! We can fight UNC (she means the tarheels)
Me: YES, go fight UNC (I double over in laughter)

Now we need to work on Peacemaking.

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Pumpkin Carving

We have never carved pumpkins as a family before. And honestly forgot it was so close to Halloween until we went on our date night. We walked into a restaurant that boasts western food and everyone was dressed in wicked, grotesque gore. I was so glad our kids were not there, they would have had nightmares.
Oh Yeah, Halloween!
We had a good meal and returned home to a good report from our helper about the kids. On Saturday David took the kids out to buy a kickstand for Tobin's bike (he now goes NO training wheels, deserving of a whole post soon), and to buy a big pumpkin (and smaller ones for me for fall decor). They also came back with flowers (romantic!). This was during my home school prep time, though baby G, now quite sick with fever and ear infection needed TLC as well.

When they returned, they they set to carve the pumpkin:
We had recently read 'The Pumpkin Patch Parable' again and Sophia got it out to help daddy know how to carve :).

My neighbor asked me about Halloween, I told her that I did not know how it originated and that we didn't celebrate it, but as a kid it is a favorite, simply for the candy! What our kids don't know right now won't hurt them.

 They love our little pumpkin, David did a great job. Bella sat down and asked me what I was doing mid-morning and I told her I was chopping an apple, but she was really talking to Mr. Pumpkin. She then said with her smirky smile: "Are you staring at me?" She laughed at herself and moved on.
 

Tea Bag Art

This was a CC Cycle 3 Week 5 activity that I stole from Pinterest. The girls loved it. 
I made a pot decaf peach tea, I turned on some music and then got out various decaf fruit teas for them to smell and guess the fruit. I asked them to tell me how each of their 5 main senses were being used. (I made them taste the tea).


I had water spray bottles and they went to work.


making various designs with the colors (and water color paper)

 We are so thankful for our back yard and table! The pleasant weather (finally) has had me able to serve them lunch outside a few times this week.