The girls begged to learn piano and we waited and waited. Then in August we took the plunge, not knowing at all how it would fit in our schedule. So far it has, loosely.
They were so excited the first few weeks, then it got a little hard. But they are doing great. Progress is slow because they really only practice about 15 minutes a day, and I am no help. David has had a very busy few weeks so it has been tough. But they are getting it.
We will up their practice time this week, and though they sometimes bemoan it, they love it when they do master a hard part.
Teacher Wang is great. He is funny, light-hearted and helps them understand concepts with really good analogies. He sets them at ease and this is the kind of teacher I wanted, not a drill sergeant that expects perfection.
Keep it up girls!
Sunday, October 18, 2015
River Play
Some close friends of ours took us on a river adventure outing. This family also has four kids almost our kiddos' ages. This fam will be moving back to Holland in December and we are already mourning their leaving. But until then we continue to hang out and enjoy our families playing together.
They are quite adventurous and have been showing us all their great finds in regards to river play spots, great valley bike rides, etc.
Most of these pics are blurry but I hope you get the gist.
This may look like it could be a stressful place for kids to play but it was not.
We took our 'coffee break' (very Dutch) out here and each kid played on their own level.
Bigger kids went through the river to the big rocks.
Gabrielle was content with sand play.
Sophia and Levi recruited the others to dam up a section and make a little pool.
The beach part under the bridge provided plenty of non wet places to play and reprieve from the sun (though the water was COLD)
The scenery in this place!
David really got into Dam building. Arina (their mom, my dear friend) and I sat atop a big rock and watched it all unfold. She spurs me on to really enjoy my kids.
they made this pool for Gabrielle, who didn't quite appreciate it.
They hauled a lot of rocks.
And were proud in the end. Coming off of our village visit, Sophia again said she definitely wants to move out here, near a river. David agreed.
Love this man. He is on a trip now, miss him already.
They are quite adventurous and have been showing us all their great finds in regards to river play spots, great valley bike rides, etc.
Most of these pics are blurry but I hope you get the gist.
This may look like it could be a stressful place for kids to play but it was not.
We took our 'coffee break' (very Dutch) out here and each kid played on their own level.
Bigger kids went through the river to the big rocks.
Gabrielle was content with sand play.
Sophia and Levi recruited the others to dam up a section and make a little pool.
The beach part under the bridge provided plenty of non wet places to play and reprieve from the sun (though the water was COLD)
The scenery in this place!
David really got into Dam building. Arina (their mom, my dear friend) and I sat atop a big rock and watched it all unfold. She spurs me on to really enjoy my kids.
they made this pool for Gabrielle, who didn't quite appreciate it.
They hauled a lot of rocks.
And were proud in the end. Coming off of our village visit, Sophia again said she definitely wants to move out here, near a river. David agreed.
Love this man. He is on a trip now, miss him already.
Wednesday, October 14, 2015
Home School Subject Focus: Sci Lab
(I am going up from the bottom of my subject list, in case you were wondering.)
We have done science projects throughout our past few home school years but these are new and planned in advance. I even ordered owl pellets and got them sent from the U.S. (made it through customs, surprisingly). This year I also expect them to be more involved in all of the processes.
That means we added Science Notebooking this year. Usually during our CC science memory work I have a good 20 minutes to talk about it, explore encyclopedias, and have them draw something. For example, they drew and labeled a plant cell, they drew invertebrates and vertebrates, they love it, it is science disguised as art. This is actually NOT their science lab, just their science notebooking from their CC time. This sometimes enhances the SCI Lab. They do bring their notebooks to SCI Lab as well and we sometimes use them.
For our egg experiment I had them draw the egg before soaking in vinegar and then draw it again 3 days later as we discussed why it had changed.
Today was our grossest experiment by far (Sophia was grossed out last year as we tried out a chicken's tendons in their ankle). Earlier in the day as we reviewed the groups of vertebrates FARMB, Fish, Amphibians, Reptiles, Mammals and Birds, they drew one of each. Then we dissected owl pellets (aka puke!), and had lots of discussions about mammals as we tried to figure out which mammal remains we were finding in the pellet.
The only poisonous mammal is a short tailed shrew. Who knew?
SCI LAB is every Weds starting when we finish core, either 4 or 4:30 p.m.
Pics from todays Lab:
First I showed them a clip from discovery channels 'dirty jobs' all about the guy who collects Owl Pellets (vomit).
Then I read to them some fun facts about owls. Next we gloved up and dug in!
I had an owl pellet dissection sheet and two really good sheets that showed the type of bones we would probably find and which animal they belonged to. We are fairly certain that Sophia had a vole and Bella a shrew of some sort, though it was a bit hard to tell. We could even see the teeth on the jaw bone of these tiny animals. It was cool and disgusting all at the same time.
Of course the pellet is mainly rodent hair! We had to dig through this to get to the bones
Bella, who has been fighting a cold and fever was actually more reluctant with this.
we had our magnifying glasses handy.
Sophia said: 'we are like real scientists!'
Look at all of those teeny bones:
This experiment should definitely be done again when they are older. I am so keen on science even at an early age because it ignites the explorer in us all and the realization that the world God created is amazingly complex while still displaying simple beauty.
We don't have a pure science curriculum yet. We stick with it for 24 weeks, following the CC subjects/memory work and guidelines in the Foundations Guide.
It has been a wonderful 'elective' for us and they look forward to it every Wednesday.
We have done science projects throughout our past few home school years but these are new and planned in advance. I even ordered owl pellets and got them sent from the U.S. (made it through customs, surprisingly). This year I also expect them to be more involved in all of the processes.
That means we added Science Notebooking this year. Usually during our CC science memory work I have a good 20 minutes to talk about it, explore encyclopedias, and have them draw something. For example, they drew and labeled a plant cell, they drew invertebrates and vertebrates, they love it, it is science disguised as art. This is actually NOT their science lab, just their science notebooking from their CC time. This sometimes enhances the SCI Lab. They do bring their notebooks to SCI Lab as well and we sometimes use them.
For our egg experiment I had them draw the egg before soaking in vinegar and then draw it again 3 days later as we discussed why it had changed.
Today was our grossest experiment by far (Sophia was grossed out last year as we tried out a chicken's tendons in their ankle). Earlier in the day as we reviewed the groups of vertebrates FARMB, Fish, Amphibians, Reptiles, Mammals and Birds, they drew one of each. Then we dissected owl pellets (aka puke!), and had lots of discussions about mammals as we tried to figure out which mammal remains we were finding in the pellet.
The only poisonous mammal is a short tailed shrew. Who knew?
SCI LAB is every Weds starting when we finish core, either 4 or 4:30 p.m.
Pics from todays Lab:
First I showed them a clip from discovery channels 'dirty jobs' all about the guy who collects Owl Pellets (vomit).
Then I read to them some fun facts about owls. Next we gloved up and dug in!
I had an owl pellet dissection sheet and two really good sheets that showed the type of bones we would probably find and which animal they belonged to. We are fairly certain that Sophia had a vole and Bella a shrew of some sort, though it was a bit hard to tell. We could even see the teeth on the jaw bone of these tiny animals. It was cool and disgusting all at the same time.
Of course the pellet is mainly rodent hair! We had to dig through this to get to the bones
Bella, who has been fighting a cold and fever was actually more reluctant with this.
we had our magnifying glasses handy.
Sophia said: 'we are like real scientists!'
Look at all of those teeny bones:
This experiment should definitely be done again when they are older. I am so keen on science even at an early age because it ignites the explorer in us all and the realization that the world God created is amazingly complex while still displaying simple beauty.
We don't have a pure science curriculum yet. We stick with it for 24 weeks, following the CC subjects/memory work and guidelines in the Foundations Guide.
It has been a wonderful 'elective' for us and they look forward to it every Wednesday.
Home School Subject Focus: GeoMap
I named this subject GeoMap because it is geography and map drawing mixed.
We try to do this every Tuesday and Thursday at 4:30 p.m, some weeks we only do it once.
I made lesson plans almost exactly verbatim from Leigh Bortins' book The Core and her chapter on Geography. I wasn't sure how this would go over, but our girls love it. It is hard, and for a perfectionist like Bella, or one who likes to work fast like Sophia, it can be frustrating. But they really do like it, and once they get over initial frustrations, as the map takes shape they appreciate the work it took to get there. We are not very far along yet.
We started out just drawing and redrawing the major circles of Latitude (CC has a song for this). And just like she recommends in her book, I put on some classical music every class and we draw, draw, draw. Then we started our continent focus on Africa. We are about between Lessons 7 and 8 (see chart below).
I decided to change this by focusing on Africa first (she recommends South America) and trying to add in the Geography we are learning this cycle which happens to be a lot in Africa. So far they have done nothing from memory, we are always looking at maps and practicing. We are moving towards doing this from memory but the main goal right now is replicating proportionally and then knowing where features go. It is a slow process overall, but when we get going our whole class time is about 20 minutes or less unless they keep going. On days they are easily frustrated I cut it short and let them draw boats in their oceans or anything else.
We are also using bigger paper than 8 1/2 x 11. Once we got the latitude lines down I took a sheet with those lines on it and got a bunch of copies.
I don't know if they (we!) will ever be able to do this without looking at a map and don't care that much, but we are having lots of fun trying!
Here is my One Note file of my lessons:
We try to do this every Tuesday and Thursday at 4:30 p.m, some weeks we only do it once.
I made lesson plans almost exactly verbatim from Leigh Bortins' book The Core and her chapter on Geography. I wasn't sure how this would go over, but our girls love it. It is hard, and for a perfectionist like Bella, or one who likes to work fast like Sophia, it can be frustrating. But they really do like it, and once they get over initial frustrations, as the map takes shape they appreciate the work it took to get there. We are not very far along yet.
We started out just drawing and redrawing the major circles of Latitude (CC has a song for this). And just like she recommends in her book, I put on some classical music every class and we draw, draw, draw. Then we started our continent focus on Africa. We are about between Lessons 7 and 8 (see chart below).
I decided to change this by focusing on Africa first (she recommends South America) and trying to add in the Geography we are learning this cycle which happens to be a lot in Africa. So far they have done nothing from memory, we are always looking at maps and practicing. We are moving towards doing this from memory but the main goal right now is replicating proportionally and then knowing where features go. It is a slow process overall, but when we get going our whole class time is about 20 minutes or less unless they keep going. On days they are easily frustrated I cut it short and let them draw boats in their oceans or anything else.
We are also using bigger paper than 8 1/2 x 11. Once we got the latitude lines down I took a sheet with those lines on it and got a bunch of copies.
I don't know if they (we!) will ever be able to do this without looking at a map and don't care that much, but we are having lots of fun trying!
Here is my One Note file of my lessons:
From the Core.
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Resources
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(the core), Rand McNally, DK first, barefoot books,
CC trivium tables, blob maps, DWN #8 p 24
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Remember
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DK atlas p 4-5: RM to draw world lines, older kids
label all, younger label with abbreviations
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Lesson
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Activity
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Lesson 1
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Make own latitude
line paper
8 1/2 x 11
Do this two times,
sing CC song for major circles of Lat (Remember: Ladder tude).
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Lesson 2
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Repeat week one
from scratch, if memorized then add prime meridian and IDL
PM: through
England/west africa
IDL: Alaska russia
Pac Ocean
Put americas in
West for ease
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Lesson 3
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Repeat lesson 1
and 2
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Lesson 4
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Map copying of any
kind…DWN or any atlas fun with music
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Lesson 5
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B: repeat 1 and 2
add africa blob or outline:
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Lesson 6
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Repeat lesson 5
Keep redrawing
blob over previous one, draw on reverse of paper. Throw away
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Lesson 7
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Clean sheet, draw
grid of circles
Draw africa 'blob'
Now draw blobs of
other continents
Just practice size
compared to others and where they sit on great circles
Skill: how to look
carefully and replicate proportionally
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Lesson 8
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Repeat lesson 7,
label all continents, and the four oceans
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Lesson 9
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Practice blob
mapping until they cross circles accurately, until you are satisfied
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Lesson 10
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Draw as neatly as
possible all grids, all blobs without looking at original map, then look and
correct.
Repeat .
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Lesson 11
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Individual
continent, same process
Africa: draw lines
See: DWN: #8 p 24,
see printed map also
Read facts,
Just practice
shaping and placing, color in
See: barefoot book
and DK
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Lesson 12
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Repeat lesson 11
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Lesson 13
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Re draw: add Egypt
shape, Nile, river crete
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Lesson 14
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Africa: redraw:
add Egypt empire features
Get out atlas add
Western africa features
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Lesson 15
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Repeat 13/14
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Lesson 16
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Repeat, add
Ancient Africa features, see CC trivium
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Lesson 17
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Repeat add all
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Lesson 18
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Repeat, add Africa
waters
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Lesson 19
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Repeat, add
southern africa wk 17
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Lesson 19
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Repeat add all by
looking
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Lesson 20
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Repeat final
Africa with features not looking
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Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Homeschool Subject Focus: Classical Conversations
Yes, I know CC is 7 subjects and much more! But I am clumping it all into one here for sake of discussion.
To layout our subjects it would go something like this:
[Chinese]
Language Arts:
spelling
handwriting
reading
grammar
pre-Latin
Math
Bible
Read aloud (usually goes along with history but gets a chunk of time so it gets its own slot)
History
Fine Arts (guided by CC but with my own tweaks)
Sci Lab
GeoMap (drawing our world)
CC: (1:00-1:30 p.m. daily)
Latin memory work
Geography Memory work + class enhancement sometimes
Science memory work + class enhancement
History memory work + class enhancement
English Grammar memory work
Timeline memory work + class enhancement
Math memory work
Our weekly schedule for introducing new CC subjects is as follows:
Monday: We review for about 10 minutes, trying to get as much from Cycle 1 previous weeks in in this ten minutes. We are only in week 6 so this is doable. I intro English first because it is shorter and easier. Right now we are relearning the preposition dance, they LOVE it. This takes 5 minutes. Then we do the history sentence. Since we have a separate history curriculum I don't accent a whole lot here. We may get out an encyclopedia or if I have a corresponding activity we may do it. Sometimes I may have a short video clip (watched at the end of the homeschool day on Monday) that goes along with it.
Tuesday: we spend almost 15 minutes reviewing cycle 2 and 3, and the cycle 1 stuff learned the day before. We then intro math and chant, chant, chant. The last 10-20 minutes (sometimes Tuesday's CC is longer than 30 minutes) is going through the 7 new timeline motions and cards. New this year is that I have Sophia read aloud a 'Timeline Tidbit' for each card instead of reading the whole card.
Wednesday: We review cycle 1 10 minutes then spend 20 minutes discussing the science fact/memory work, opening up science encyclopedias, and drawing in our science notebooks or I may show a clip having to do with the science fact. They also use these notebooks later in the day for Science Lab. This is science day and they love it, I do too! Tobin is with us during the memory work time where we try to better understand what we are memorizing, but he is okay to draw whatever he wants and just keep listening to the jingles we sing. The science lab often goes along with the memory work, but not always.
Thursday: Review cycle 2 and 3 10-15 minutes. Latin chants memory work, noun declensions. This year I am trying to get them to look at the letters as they sing the declension songs. I may try to get them to be able to fill this in by the end of the cycle (at least Sophia). Now that they are both great readers and basically know the Chinese Romanization sounds represented by English letters, I thought it wouldn't mess them up to put the Latin sounds with letters now as well. (that is three different sound systems using the same letters going on in their brains!). We only spend about 5 minutes doing this. Then we do our geography: skittle maps. They know these songs but now we spend more time reviewing this and using blank maps to name locations.
Friday: Fine Arts Friday. We review the week's new stuff and dig into our art project. Every six weeks the focus changes. First 6 weeks have been basic art technique. They have loved each new project to accent basic shapes, abstract art, perspective, etc. The next six weeks is supposed to be Tin Whistle, which we are dropping this year (they take piano). We will go into Orchestra and Composers which will lead us into Christmas studying Handel. The third six weeks we will do the Great Artists which does have corresponding art projects, and the last six weeks I may return to composers, I haven't decided yet. We will do art with composers in some way, since they love to draw and use their big sketch books, draw as we listen probably!
To layout our subjects it would go something like this:
[Chinese]
Language Arts:
spelling
handwriting
reading
grammar
pre-Latin
Math
Bible
Read aloud (usually goes along with history but gets a chunk of time so it gets its own slot)
History
Fine Arts (guided by CC but with my own tweaks)
Sci Lab
GeoMap (drawing our world)
CC: (1:00-1:30 p.m. daily)
Latin memory work
Geography Memory work + class enhancement sometimes
Science memory work + class enhancement
History memory work + class enhancement
English Grammar memory work
Timeline memory work + class enhancement
Math memory work
Our weekly schedule for introducing new CC subjects is as follows:
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Monday
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Tuesday
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Wednesday
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Thursday
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Friday
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Rev ALL subjects
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Review C2-3
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Rev C1
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Review C2-3
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Rev C1 All
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Accent: History Sentence
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C1 Accent TimeLine
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Accent: Science fact and focus
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C1 Accent Latin
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Fine Arts intro/
project
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Accent: English
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Accent: Math
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Sci notebook
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Accent Geography
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Video clips to
accent any subject
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4:30
GeoMap
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4:30 Science Lab
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4:30 GeoMap
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piano
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Monday: We review for about 10 minutes, trying to get as much from Cycle 1 previous weeks in in this ten minutes. We are only in week 6 so this is doable. I intro English first because it is shorter and easier. Right now we are relearning the preposition dance, they LOVE it. This takes 5 minutes. Then we do the history sentence. Since we have a separate history curriculum I don't accent a whole lot here. We may get out an encyclopedia or if I have a corresponding activity we may do it. Sometimes I may have a short video clip (watched at the end of the homeschool day on Monday) that goes along with it.
Tuesday: we spend almost 15 minutes reviewing cycle 2 and 3, and the cycle 1 stuff learned the day before. We then intro math and chant, chant, chant. The last 10-20 minutes (sometimes Tuesday's CC is longer than 30 minutes) is going through the 7 new timeline motions and cards. New this year is that I have Sophia read aloud a 'Timeline Tidbit' for each card instead of reading the whole card.
Wednesday: We review cycle 1 10 minutes then spend 20 minutes discussing the science fact/memory work, opening up science encyclopedias, and drawing in our science notebooks or I may show a clip having to do with the science fact. They also use these notebooks later in the day for Science Lab. This is science day and they love it, I do too! Tobin is with us during the memory work time where we try to better understand what we are memorizing, but he is okay to draw whatever he wants and just keep listening to the jingles we sing. The science lab often goes along with the memory work, but not always.
Thursday: Review cycle 2 and 3 10-15 minutes. Latin chants memory work, noun declensions. This year I am trying to get them to look at the letters as they sing the declension songs. I may try to get them to be able to fill this in by the end of the cycle (at least Sophia). Now that they are both great readers and basically know the Chinese Romanization sounds represented by English letters, I thought it wouldn't mess them up to put the Latin sounds with letters now as well. (that is three different sound systems using the same letters going on in their brains!). We only spend about 5 minutes doing this. Then we do our geography: skittle maps. They know these songs but now we spend more time reviewing this and using blank maps to name locations.
Friday: Fine Arts Friday. We review the week's new stuff and dig into our art project. Every six weeks the focus changes. First 6 weeks have been basic art technique. They have loved each new project to accent basic shapes, abstract art, perspective, etc. The next six weeks is supposed to be Tin Whistle, which we are dropping this year (they take piano). We will go into Orchestra and Composers which will lead us into Christmas studying Handel. The third six weeks we will do the Great Artists which does have corresponding art projects, and the last six weeks I may return to composers, I haven't decided yet. We will do art with composers in some way, since they love to draw and use their big sketch books, draw as we listen probably!
Saturday, October 10, 2015
Daily Life Schedule: School + School
Monday-Friday:
7:00 a.m.
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kids wake up, I start breakfast (granola, or oatmeal, or
toast/eggs) often do Bible Memory over breakfast
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7:30 a.m. :
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Sophia and Bella leave
for school
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8:00 a.m.:
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I start 'school' with
Tobin:
10 min: Memory work: CC and Bible verses
15
min: He reads to me
15
min: I read to him, fairy tales, currently
5-10 min: handwriting, K4 notebook or now just name practice, nothing formal
here
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9: or 9:15a.m
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G and T may go to the market with our helper, or just G goes.
This gives me a 30 minute window to workout (Kettlebells on
MWF). My particular workout has me able to keep an eye on Tobin and check on
him every 8 minutes (total 24 minutes), this works great if he is outside or
something. I run on Tues/Thurs, but I try to do that before waking hours. If
I do it here I try to limit it to 30-40 minutes. I take a quick shower, or if
doing something real active with kids, I just go play with them.
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9:45-10:30
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get anything ready for
the rest of the day, meal prep, etc. has to happen here and then I play
with Tobin and Gabrielle
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10:40 a.m.
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Pick up Bella from school
(this will change to 11:30 next semester)
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11:05 a.m.
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after a snack and short break I teach Bella her Language Arts
and whatever else we can get done in about 30 minutes. We usually
complete LA and then I intro her math for her to do then or later.
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11:30 a.m.
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if it is my turn I go get
Sophia from school, otherwise I help get lunch ready and we try to eat at
11:45 a.m.
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11:45 a.m.
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During lunch is Bible
class, catechism and Bible book cards from: Bible Study Guide for all Ages, we only use the Bible book summary cards not their full curriculum and we love them.(David leads this on M, R, F, but
on other days usually just makes it home for family devos)
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12:15 p.m.
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family devotions:
singing, Bible reading, prayer
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12:35 p.m:
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Read aloud time
with all kiddos.
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1:00 p.m.:
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CC time: Each day a different focus (expounded on later in
a CC only post), Tues/Thurs we review Cycle 2 and 3 along with current
week of Cycle 1, depending on the subject focus this could be almost
like a science or geography class, Friday is Fine Arts, not just mem work. (G is napping at
this time)
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1:30:
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history class: Story of
the World Vol. 3
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2:00 p.m.
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snack, get Tobin ready for school, girls snack and break a
little or finish up history, then they go into read alone time:
Sophia: Bible, Chinese chapter, English chapter. Bella: Bible, Lit study
book, and other English book. (at this
time Sophia may start on some of her math)
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2: 20 p.m
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take Tobin and neighbors to school
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2: 45 p.m.:
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return and regroup,
sometimes start right away.
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3:00 p.m.
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Start core with Sophia
(or finish math with Bella then start with Sophia): The Phonics Road Level 3:
Spelling, Latin base words/prefix/suffix, and Grammar study via literature
book, total about an hour. (Bella does piano practice and plays with
Gabrielle, or may finish up math we didn't finish)
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4:00 p.m.
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teach math and finish up (Fri: piano lessons)
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4:30: p.m.
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depends on the day,
Monday: any extra fun history clips I may have or Sophia does piano,
Tue/Thur: GeoMap (cartography, really!) Weds: Sci experiment and notebooking,
Fri: Piano lesson
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5:00 p.m.
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work on dinner. Tobin gets home around 5:25 or so.
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MWF:
6:15-7:15 Chinese tutor comes to help with Chinese homework.
Wednesday, October 7, 2015
Culturally Appropriate
The other day our family went to KFC. This is a bit of a treat, the only real western food available here except what I cook.
As we were leaving, we spotted someone that looked like a foreigner in line. By the time we got outside our kids were talking about it non-stop. A minute later, through the big glass window, I saw Tobin and Bella back in KFC four feet from the woman and pointing at her.
Yes, she noticed.
They were probably saying: 'look at the foreigner'. I contemplated acting like I didn't know them. Instead I gracefully (ahem) ran inside and got them, smiling apologetically at the lady, who smiled back.
On the way out Tobin picked up a french fry off the ground (outside) and in all earnestness was about to eat it. I do not have to worry about him ever going hungry.
I was so entertained by these kids that I forgot they were mine for a moment, don't my kids know better than to do the things just mentioned? David was a few feet away and I belly laughed as I told him everything and how our kids are in much need of some (re)training.
So in the car we started the conversation of 'cultural appropriateness'. Sophia was completely tracking with us, and the others were still amazed that there was a foreigner in town.
We are explaining that some things are not good or bad things, they are not moral issues, simply cultural norms in one culture that may shock someone from another. We gave examples that we have all experienced.
A night later we had a local family over that we have known our entire time living here. The wife asked Tobin if he was full, and he stuck out his belly. She then went on to point out her husband's belly and laugh and say how fat he was and how he didn't like to exercise. He agreed by his smile and we all laughed as she continued. This is such a common conversation here that we are used to it. She was in no way belittling him, he wasn't made to feel small, she loves her husband and was sharing facts in a way that added to our conversation.
After our guests left we light-heartedly brought this up with our kids. They have experienced the whole: 'your fat' 'your skinny', 'your so white', 'your sister is prettier than you', 'your Chinese is better than hers/his', and on and on the honesty goes. I do address some of these things right as we experience them (especially the comparisons), but most of the time I let it go.
They all understood that the dinner conversation was completely appropriate, just not at a dinner table in America. But here? Enjoy the conversation, agree if you would like, and laugh on.
.... and even though you experience the 'hey look at that foreigner!' daily, let's not stare and point when you see one.
As we were leaving, we spotted someone that looked like a foreigner in line. By the time we got outside our kids were talking about it non-stop. A minute later, through the big glass window, I saw Tobin and Bella back in KFC four feet from the woman and pointing at her.
Yes, she noticed.
They were probably saying: 'look at the foreigner'. I contemplated acting like I didn't know them. Instead I gracefully (ahem) ran inside and got them, smiling apologetically at the lady, who smiled back.
On the way out Tobin picked up a french fry off the ground (outside) and in all earnestness was about to eat it. I do not have to worry about him ever going hungry.
I was so entertained by these kids that I forgot they were mine for a moment, don't my kids know better than to do the things just mentioned? David was a few feet away and I belly laughed as I told him everything and how our kids are in much need of some (re)training.
So in the car we started the conversation of 'cultural appropriateness'. Sophia was completely tracking with us, and the others were still amazed that there was a foreigner in town.
We are explaining that some things are not good or bad things, they are not moral issues, simply cultural norms in one culture that may shock someone from another. We gave examples that we have all experienced.
A night later we had a local family over that we have known our entire time living here. The wife asked Tobin if he was full, and he stuck out his belly. She then went on to point out her husband's belly and laugh and say how fat he was and how he didn't like to exercise. He agreed by his smile and we all laughed as she continued. This is such a common conversation here that we are used to it. She was in no way belittling him, he wasn't made to feel small, she loves her husband and was sharing facts in a way that added to our conversation.
After our guests left we light-heartedly brought this up with our kids. They have experienced the whole: 'your fat' 'your skinny', 'your so white', 'your sister is prettier than you', 'your Chinese is better than hers/his', and on and on the honesty goes. I do address some of these things right as we experience them (especially the comparisons), but most of the time I let it go.
They all understood that the dinner conversation was completely appropriate, just not at a dinner table in America. But here? Enjoy the conversation, agree if you would like, and laugh on.
.... and even though you experience the 'hey look at that foreigner!' daily, let's not stare and point when you see one.
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